Compare Attachment Styles

See two attachment styles side-by-side across every key dimension.

Dimension
💙Anxious Attachment
🏔️Avoidant Attachment
Core Fear
Abandonment
Engulfment and loss of autonomy
Core Need
Reassurance and closeness
Independence and self-sufficiency
Common Triggers
  • ●partner withdrawal
  • ●delayed responses
  • ●ambiguity
  • ●perceived rejection
  • ●emotional demands
  • ●partner neediness
  • ●loss of personal space
  • ●pressure to commit
Typical Behaviors
  • ●Double-texting
  • ●Seeking constant reassurance
  • ●People-pleasing
  • ●Monitoring partner's mood
  • ●Emotional withdrawal under stress
  • ●Keeping partners at arm's length
  • ●Intellectualising instead of feeling
  • ●Focusing on partner's flaws
Healing Focus
  • ●Self-soothing techniques
  • ●Secure base development
  • ●Distress tolerance
  • ●Building self-worth outside relationships
  • ●Gradual vulnerability practice
  • ●Naming and expressing emotions
  • ●Staying present during conflict
  • ●Recognising deactivation strategies
Best Therapy Types
  • ●EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy)
  • ●Schema Therapy
  • ●CBT for anxiety
  • ●Mindfulness-based therapy
  • ●EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy)
  • ●Psychodynamic therapy
  • ●Somatic experiencing
  • ●Couples therapy (Gottman method)
Strengths
  • ●Deeply empathetic and emotionally attuned
  • ●Highly committed once in a relationship
  • ●Aware of relational dynamics
  • ●Strong desire for connection
  • ●Self-reliant and resourceful
  • ●Calm under external pressure
  • ●Strong personal boundaries
  • ●Independent problem-solving
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