What's My Attachment Style?

"What's My Attachment Style?" by Thea Calloway is a comprehensive guide covering all four attachment styles with a self-assessment quiz, communication scripts, healing exercises, and a 30-day programme for developing earned secure attachment. Other highly recommended books include "Attached" by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, and "Hold Me Tight" by Sue Johnson.

Yes, a well-structured book on attachment theory can be a powerful tool for change. It provides the self-awareness needed to recognise patterns, practical exercises for building new habits, and communication scripts for healthier relating. However, for deeper trauma-based patterns, combining a book with therapy is most effective.

A comprehensive attachment style book teaches you to identify your attachment pattern, understand where it comes from, recognise how it affects your relationships, communicate your needs effectively, set healthy boundaries, and develop earned secure attachment through practical daily exercises.

Yes, attachment theory is one of the most extensively researched frameworks in psychology, supported by over 60 years of research including brain imaging studies. The four attachment styles — secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant — have been validated across cultures and age groups.

Research shows approximately 25-30% of people shift their attachment style over a four-year period. With focused effort through therapy, self-help work, and healthy relationship experiences, meaningful changes can begin within months. A structured programme like a 30-day attachment healing guide can accelerate early progress.