Best Attachment Style Books
Our curated reading list for understanding attachment theory and building secure relationships.
OUR PICK
What's My Attachment Style?
The complete guide with quiz, exercises, and 30-day programme
The companion book to this website. Includes an in-depth attachment assessment, communication scripts for every situation, healing exercises for each style, and a structured 30-day programme for developing earned security.
Best for: Everyone — whether you're just discovering attachment theory or ready to do the deep work
More Recommended Reading
Attached
by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller
The most popular introduction to attachment theory in relationships.
Best for: Everyone new to attachment theory
View on Amazon →Hold Me Tight
by Dr. Sue Johnson
The foundational text on Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples.
Best for: Couples wanting to strengthen their bond
View on Amazon →Polysecure
by Jessica Fern
Applies attachment theory to non-monogamous relationships.
Best for: Those exploring non-monogamous relationships
View on Amazon →Wired for Love
by Stan Tatkin
A neuroscience-based approach to understanding partner behaviour.
Best for: Science-minded readers
View on Amazon →The Body Keeps the Score
by Bessel van der Kolk
Essential for understanding how early experiences live in the body.
Best for: Those with trauma history
View on Amazon →Insecure in Love
by Leslie Becker-Phelps
A workbook-style guide for people with anxious attachment.
Best for: Anxiously attached readers
View on Amazon →Avoidant
by Jeb Kinnison
One of the few books focused specifically on avoidant attachment.
Best for: Avoidant readers or their partners
View on Amazon →A Secure Base
by John Bowlby
Written by the father of attachment theory himself.
Best for: Academic foundations
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