Question 1

What are the 4 attachment styles?

Accepted Answer

The four attachment styles are: Secure (comfortable with intimacy and independence), Anxious (craves closeness but fears abandonment), Avoidant (values independence, uncomfortable with closeness), and Fearful-Avoidant (wants love but fears it). These styles develop in childhood based on caregiver interactions.

Question 2

How do I know my attachment style?

Accepted Answer

You can discover your attachment style by taking our free quiz based on the ECR-R (Experiences in Close Relationships - Revised) framework. The quiz measures two dimensions — attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance — to determine your style. It takes about 5 minutes.

Question 3

Can you change your attachment style?

Accepted Answer

Yes. Research shows approximately 25-30% of people change their attachment style over a 4-year period. The most common shift is from insecure to secure, especially through therapy, self-awareness, and supportive relationships. This is called developing 'earned security.'

Question 4

What is the most common attachment style?

Accepted Answer

Secure attachment is the most common, with approximately 50-60% of the population. Around 20% have anxious attachment, 25% have avoidant attachment, and 3-5% have fearful-avoidant (disorganised) attachment.

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